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There Are No Rules

burnout wellbeing Nov 01, 2021
Its Monday, it’s the 1st of November, and already my social media is filled with posts about how with only two months left of the year we should all be smashing our goals and people asking if it’s too early for Christmas songs yet.
 
Let’s get the Christmas songs out of the way first, I love them! Play them as much as you want, do what makes you happy. If getting in the festive spirit is what you need right now, do it. If other people don’t like it, they can scroll on past or walk away. We have this ever year don’t we? Asking other people’s permission to do things that make us feel good. Why? Because we don’t want the criticism or the negativity of others. So we wait, we ask permission and when it feels like it’s acceptable to others for us to do something, then we go ahead.
 
What if there were no rules? What if you want to listen to your favourite Christmas song in September, or April? If it makes you feel good do...
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Burnout | Recovery vs Healing

wellbeing Oct 15, 2021
Earlier this week I had a bit of a wobble and found myself in a place of doubt and fear. I’ve got some big plans for the next 12 months and over the last couple of weeks I’ve been getting everything planned, sharing everything with my team and ensuring that everything will happen when it needs to happen. And honestly, these plans are pushing me outside of my comfort zone. But as I’ve always believed, it’s on the other side of our comfort zone where the real growth occurs.
 
After weeks of planning and creating and delegating and feeling the excitement build, earlier this week I read a blog that sent me spiralling into fear and doubt.
 
The blog was by someone in my network and it listed a long list of things that they were hoping to achieve, before their coach told them not to do it as it was all too much, all for the wrong reasons and would likely take them off track and into burnout again and away from their real purpose. And as I read...
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10 Ways In Which Working Environments Are Causing Burnout

burnout leadership Sep 27, 2021
10 Ways In Which Working Environments Are Causing Burnout
 
More and more workplaces are offering a week off to prevent Burnout and many individuals assume that one week off will fix how they are feeling.
 
If it truly is Burnout that is being experienced, a week off will not solve this.
 
In 2019 when the World Health Organisation defined Burnout as an occupational phenomenon and it stated that:
“Burn-out is a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed. It is characterized by three dimensions:
  • feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion;
  • increased mental distance from one’s job, or feelings of negativism or cynicism related to one's job; and
  • reduced professional efficacy.
Burn-out refers specifically to phenomena in the occupational context and should not be applied to describe experiences in other areas of life.”
 
If you Google Burnout in the workplace...
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10 Ways to Move from Burnout To Balance

Until my burnout in 2013, if you had asked me about the important things in life, what I valued and what I prioritised, it wouldn’t have even occurred to me to put myself on that list. I had a long list of what I wanted to achieve, the goals, the promotions, the lifestyle, the income, the house, the type of mum and wife I wanted to be – for my sons and husband, not for me, and I was set on achieving it all.
 
I exercised a lot because it was a stress release and another thing to tick off the list, but I was never really present, just focusing on how much more I could do in the time and how much further I could go. Everything in my life was about doing, being and having better.
 
I’d been told that I couldn’t grow and develop my career whilst being a mum to twin sons, I was told I’d need more time to reach the top, I was told that my timelines and aspirations were unrealistic. I was told I should lower my expectations.
 
And...
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Help!

wellbeing Sep 14, 2021
Asking for help can be hard for some of us and I’ve come to realise over the years that it’s because we don’t always know why we need the help or what kind of help it is that we need.
 
I was moved up a year at school, a bright and able student, I was often top of my classes. And yet the further I got through school, the harder I found Mathematics. I’d often overcomplicate things, overthink things and see numbers in a different way. If I asked for help from the teacher or my peers I’d end up feeling really stupid, I still couldn’t grasp what they were trying to tell me. I stopped asking for help and struggled in silence. And then I got a new teacher and it all just clicked. Not enough to make me enjoy it, but enough to help me understand it and enough to help me achieve a pass. I wasn’t stupid, I just needed a different perspective to help me see things differently so that I could understand it.
 
I didn’t know that...
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Letting Go!

Uncategorized Sep 06, 2021
I like to see if I can find themes from the week when doing my live videos and this week the theme is all about letting go.
 
When we are able to let go of the things that are no longer serving us, no longer lifting us up, and no longer making us feel good, we create more space for more of the good stuff. Sometimes we cling onto things that are falling away for fear of what might come, or not come in its place.
 
Rather than a long and lengthy post, here's today's video - I hope you find it helpful.
 
Kelly
 
 
 
 
 
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Alignment!

Uncategorized Sep 01, 2021
I speak and write a lot about leading from your core, and alignment plays a big part in this.
 
When I hit Burnout in 2013, I was not aligned with my values. I'd been working in a toxic environment that was causing me to be much less of the real me, and it was shaping me into something and someone that I didn't recognise. Determined to fix the issues in the workplace and to do what I knew I was capable of doing, I kept on pushing, kept on trying to fit, and I kept on fighting.
 
I had seven months going in and out of hospital, working from my hospital bed, refusing to be defeated, refusing to give in and refusing to rest. I had work to do and change to create and I was damn well going to make it work.
 
Fast forward to today, and I'm aligned to my core, to my values, and to my work in ways I would only have been able to imagine back in 2013. And yet it hasn't been easy to get here.
Burnout caused me to question everything. Who I was, what I wanted, what I...
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Two Weeks To Go!

Uncategorized Aug 23, 2021
With just two weeks to go until the Be Your Own VIP community launches, what do you need to know?
 
What is the VIP Community? It's a membership community for Professional Women that focuses on whole wellbeing: mental, emotional, physical, financial and spiritual wellbeing, because you are a whole person.
 
Why am I starting it? Last year during the pandemic I took a closer look at my coaching clients and knew I needed to make some changes. I stepped away from the HR Community and HRDs that I'd been supporting for the last 8 years and focused on Professional Women. I've never been busier, and I know there is a limit to the number of women I can support on a one-to-one basis, so I needed another way, a different way to help women on a larger scale to drive more change and provide more support.
 
Why is it needed? Women face very different obstacles and challenges when it comes to being our best selves in the workplace. Self-doubt, protecting our boundaries,...
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It's Not All Netflix and Chill - 7 Types of Rest

burnout Aug 17, 2021
This week I’m away with my partner and our dog on the East Coast, a break away and just what we needed to recharge our batteries. We’ve walked a lot, mostly in the rain – British Summertime in full swing – we’ve talked a lot, we’ve explored and yesterday we found a beautiful Chinese garden and walks through the trees and by the streams and waterfalls, I found my Zen.
 
In 2015 whilst still recovering from my burnout, everyone was telling me to rest. To stop and to rest, to do nothing. And I spent some time doing nothing, and resting, and getting sleep, and nothing changed – I still felt exhausted.
 
We’re told that sleep and resting is good for us and something that we should do to benefit our health, but what if time out and sleep aren’t working for you? Did you know that sleep and rest are not the same thing and that many of us confuse the two?
 
We go through life thinking we’ve rested because we...
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Rabbits, Pheasants and Bravery

Uncategorized Aug 11, 2021
As I opened the door to sit in my garden this morning with my usual cup of peppermint tea, the rabbits fled, as they do every time the door is opened, back towards the bushes on the other side of the garden and they are yet to reappear.
 
This is a usual occurrence, they'll sit for hours in the grass, the sounds of the birds and traffic in the distance not bothering them at all, but the second they hear the door open, their fluffy white tails running away from you are all you are faced with, and it's the same with the pheasants too.
Mummy pheasant and her six babies live in the hedges just the other side of our fence on the opposite side of the garden to the rabbits. Sometimes they make it onto our driveway during their morning walk, sometimes in the field opposite, and lately, under our large tree, tucking into whatever they can find to eat. And as the door opens, the mum calls her children, and they fly together back over the fence.
 
And yet the sounds of...
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